How to Get the Best Out of Online Dating

Tips to ensure you have an enjoyable experience of Online Dating

Online dating has now become a popular and convenient way to meet new people and find relationships. However, it comes with its own set of caveats, dos and don’ts. Here are some tips to ensure that you go about it the right way.

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Pick the Right Site

The first thing to do, once you’ve decided to plunge into online dating, is to learn about the sites available. Most of them charge a monthly fee, for which they provide services to upload your photographs, make a profile, and an instant messenger or email service so you can chat or message people you are interested in.

These sites will usually recommend people for you based on interests and preferences listed out by you. Some are meant exclusively for a certain age group, like senior dating sites, or based on religion, like Jewish or Christian dating sites.

Some Tips about Dating Sites

Many sites offer a week’s free trial, so make use of it and try them out. Read the FAQs, Terms and Conditions and Privacy Policy to understand the aims of the site and what they are providing for you to judge if it suits your needs.

Avoid using free online dating sites; they are often used by those who want to chat with others for fun. People using proprietary sites are more likely to be looking for a serious relationship.

Remember to sign up using a new email id to avoid clogging up your primary email with requests, messages and spam.


Build your Profile Right

Next, the most important part is to build an attractive profile. Try not to go overboard with the username or the descriptive paragraph – don’t sound too desperate. Upload a nice picture of yourself, including both a face shot and a full length. Also include pictures of yourself doing something you love – dancing, hiking, etc. – to give the person some idea about your interests and lend credibility to what you say about yourself.

Be completely honest. Any misrepresentation is bound to be found out eventually, so if you are serious about looking for someone, represent yourself as you are. Do not put up overtly flattering pictures of yourself or ones that were taken long back; it is a huge turnoff if the person finds you looking completely different when they meet you.

Profile Building Tips

Describe yourself in a few simple words, and try not to sound cliché. Write about what you like in yourself, what you like to do, your hobbies, interests and so on, and also about what you are looking for in the other person.

Do not give out any personal information that can be used to cause you harm, such as your address, workplace details, etc. Try and respond to as many messages as possible, and also send out more than one. Not all messages will receive responses, so don’t be discouraged. Read the other person’s profile thoroughly before deciding to send a message.

Keep your profile and picture updated frequently, and add things you’ve done or achieved as you go. Make sure you spell check – bad spelling can give a bad impression.

Keep the Conversation Light

While chatting or mailing someone you are interested in, avoid talking about financial, health or family problems too soon. These do not make for very good conversations right at the start. Try to keep your conversations light and witty, while helping you to gain useful insight into the other person. Stray away from boring questions about favorite colors and food; opt instead to ask them about their preferences in people, their experiences in life, what they like to do and so on.


Some Dos and Don’ts

If you do get to know a person enough to agree to meet them in person, pick a public place, and make sure your friends know where you are meeting him/her. Decline offers to be picked up so that you can retain the option to leave if you feel uncomfortable.

Remember, there are dishonest people around, so be wary. Be on the lookout for suspicious behavior while you message and chat with them. If there is anything that makes you uneasy, drop yourself away immediately; it is better to be safe than sorry.

Finally, remember that not every person who responds to your messages will build a relationship with you, and not every relationship works out. Have patience, and don’t lose hope – your very own love story awaits you.


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